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Do we all have this problem?
Topic Started: Sep 23 2013, 04:17 AM (1,681 Views)
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I don't really like talking to people either, at first I thought I was just shy (which I kind of am regardless) but now I'm willing to just accept that it's my own problem and not the problem of everyone else. Humans are supposed to be naturally sociable creatures, so to not want to be sociable, I guess that must mean there's something wrong with me.
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Just because it's natural doesn't mean it's how we ought to be.

If you want to be sociable, but you feel like there are things holding you back from being able to do it, then yeah there might be some underlying issues. If you want to be unsociable, value your alone time, and feel that you can better yourself without being in a group or whatever, then that's what you should keep doing and should stop thinking that it's wrong because it's not.
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Sep 23 2013, 05:57 PM
Just because it's natural doesn't mean it's how we ought to be.

If you want to be sociable, but you feel like there are things holding you back from being able to do it, then yeah there might be some underlying issues. If you want to be unsociable, value your alone time, and feel that you can better yourself without being in a group or whatever, then that's what you should keep doing and should stop thinking that it's wrong because it's not.
I'm not saying you should be doing anything. Whether or not your social has no real impact on anything, it isn't hurting anyone either way. But humans are wired to want to socialize if I'm not mistaken. Going agaisnt what evolution has made you want to do means something must be wrong in you, right? I'm not trying to insult anyone, I'm actually talking about myself here.
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I actually like when people conversate with me wgo arent on my intellectual level

It boosts my ego
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I'm kinda the same as everyone here. I'm only really into a conversation if I feel someone is smarter than me or close to the same level (or better than me on some topic I care about). It doesn't happen very often. Or if the topic is humorous; that works well too.

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Clearin
Sep 23 2013, 06:16 PM
Roland Deschain
Sep 23 2013, 05:57 PM
Just because it's natural doesn't mean it's how we ought to be.

If you want to be sociable, but you feel like there are things holding you back from being able to do it, then yeah there might be some underlying issues. If you want to be unsociable, value your alone time, and feel that you can better yourself without being in a group or whatever, then that's what you should keep doing and should stop thinking that it's wrong because it's not.
I'm not saying you should be doing anything. Whether or not your social has no real impact on anything, it isn't hurting anyone either way. But humans are wired to want to socialize if I'm not mistaken. Going agaisnt what evolution has made you want to do means something must be wrong in you, right? I'm not trying to insult anyone, I'm actually talking about myself here.
Think you misunderstood me there. I wasn't implying that you were insulting anyone. I was just saying there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be sociable and elaborated on it a bit for anyone who feels bad that they're not sociable because you said, "I guess that must mean there's something wrong with me."

tl;dr: i was being nice
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YES! Whoah dude! I thought I was the only one having this problem!
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I think I have this issue, yeah. Sometimes, anyway. I just find it extremely easy to completely lose interest in a topic of conversation, to the point where my responses are just a flurry of 'I know what you mean', 'yeah', 'oh yeah, I know that feeling', or others that depend mostly on the tone of voice of whoever I'm speaking to. There's no real connection, there, I'm just responding according to social conventions.

Don't get me wrong, with some people, in some situations, I can get on fairly well and get involved in the conversation. But sometimes, I really just can't connect to what they're saying and it bothers me. Other times, I just start analyzing myself, leading to a downward spiral that usually ends in 'they're judging me, I should end this quickly.' Meh.

So I tend to just smile a lot instead. And in the words of a colleague: 'how can someone be that f@#~^%g happy all the time?' Yep. I hide my disinterest behind a decidedly bubbly, upbeat facade that usually doesn't reflect my actual state of mind in the slightest.
Oh, look. Another personal blog about writing. Whatever.
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I also have this sometimes. I like to hang out with friends sometimes, but I do enjoy being on the computer and playing video games a lot. Sometimes people really seem boring to me, but I am sure they feel the same about me. So I don't know
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Yeah. I have a ton of friends and am actually pretty popular. Of course though, none of them actually interest me, I just act like they do so I don't seem like I am mean and wierd. I have a crush on my ex-girlfriend lol, so I kind of act like I am laughing and enjoying my time just to impress her, she's the only friend I had that I was interested into, everyone else I know just talks about sex and stuff lol.
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I tend to put up a front around people. I laugh and act goofy and outgoing, but inside I really don't care about anyone. It's kind of sad actually. There are only a few people that I truly care about and that I'm interested in - the rest are just... people. Nonetheless, I still find myself caring for every person to some extent for some unknown reason.
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